From Kinky to Kinky’er

If one always plays it safe, one often leads a life full of dullness and little satisfaction.

Initial phase

Maybe it’s time to color outside the lines by confronting yourself with your own boundaries and limits. Is your life safe?
Living a safe life is exactly what it says: ‘it’s safe’. It’s not everything else you’re looking for like: challenging, surprising, fantastic and satisfying.
Eliminating risk is useful in many ways, but safety doesn’t always serve you. In many cases, the yearning for security stems from a fear of the unknown.

And fear often puts your life on a side track, the best experiences in life are often, in the initial phase, not to be described as safe, they can be oppressive.

• Go to a club meeting
• Waiting blindfolded for what’s to come
A first threesome

Overcome fear

Change can seem oppressive. It doesn’t feel safe because it is often unpredictable.

It drags you out of your safe environment, out of your comfort zone. It feels like you are going to bungee jump.
If you stay standing, you’re safe…if you take the plunge, you’ll feel great. You have conquered a fear and proven to yourself that you can do more than you thought possible. Scary things are satisfying.

Fear leads the way

Exciting thoughts

There are always experiences in life that one finds exciting and challenging but which one does not do because of the fear they inspire.

It is these strange, exciting thoughts, which secretly seem to come back again and again, that can give direction to an exciting future.

Push yourself forward

Here are some tips to take that step.
Overcoming fear of unknown experiences is fun and does wonders for self-confidence.
It gives satisfaction and makes life interesting.

A monotonous, safe and predictable life gives little satisfaction. Here are some thoughts for overcoming your fears.
Take small steps, build confidence by overcoming small fears.

Seeking

List what’s stopping you from taking those steps, find answers and solutions.
If you are afraid to take the step alone, find a trusted person, a safe environment.
What strategies can you develop to be able to take the step with confidence.

Remind yourself of past successes. You have overcome such insecurity before. Make an outline of this as well as encouragement.
Don’t think too much, just do it. Eventually there comes a time when you either do or don’t do something. If you do it, the uncertainty will quickly disappear and you can enjoy the step.

When you’ve taken a step, look for the next one, which you find exciting and scary at the same time… go do it, don’t let it rest.

Challenge yourself to regularly do something that scares you.
This way your life becomes fun and interesting and it gives satisfaction.
Don’t know where to start… put yourself in a challenging environment, it’s an interesting way to push your own boundaries and look at the unknown.